"You need to man up!" "Stop being such a girl." If any of these have been said to you by both men and women, you, friend, might be quite the empath. While you think that an "empath" is some mythical being whose weekend pastimes involve gazing into a crystal ball, you cannot be more wrong. Rather, you may be someone who easily absorbs people's emotions and feelings because they are highly sensitive.
Not all women are empathetic and not all men are emotionally deficient
"When you’re deeply sensitive, love is ecstasy. Music is godlike. Heartache is a wide, somatic wound. Natural beauty is jewel-drenched, wild bliss. Tension and conflict are muscle tightening and toxic, straight down to the cells," says writer Victoria Erickson. However, why does the world need more empathetic men? Aren't women enough for the job? Well, Contrary to popular belief, not all women are empathetic and similarly not all men are emotionally deficient, however, more women than men are empathetic because they have learned it over the years. While some men are innately empathetic, others need to tap into their empathic side in order to tackle pain both in the professional world as well as their personal life. Today's world is going through a lot of social upheavals as a result of pain caused and experienced, and somewhere in all this chaos, the urban world is becoming accustomed to this and as a result, there is a sensitization. Whether it's poverty, sexual violence, racial bias or any other crime, the world is reaping the seeds of patriarchy and it is affecting men too.
Men do have empathy, but they use it very selectively
In addition to this, studies have shown that women more than men care more about inclusivity and LGBTQ issues, 68 percent of men as compared to 90 percent of women. OKCupid carried out the survey among 200,000 respondents and their chief marketing officer, Melissa Hobley said, "Our data shows that women using our application are more likely to stand up for LGBTQI rights, especially marriage for all. Women are more informed, empowered and vocal, and this makes them more likely to stand up for the empowerment of others." The truth is that empathy has never been associated with being manly, but it's vital if men want to have strong and lasting relationships at work and in their personal domain. Men do have empathy, but they use it very selectively, while women are encouraged to be caring from a young age. Hence, it's high time men rise up to counteract the stereotypes associated with their own gender and support those around them, from their own family members to their colleagues and to those who are less fortunate.
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